Daddy Dominants and Little Girls


While I don’t believe in a lot of the new BDSM classifications being created, such as “Daddy Doms and Littles,” I do feel that for those of you trying to explore these, I should shed some light on them.

In the world of D/s relationships, Dominants and submissives have different roles or titles, sometimes depending on the dynamic or based on comfort between the couples. While most people are familiar with Master/slave or Master/pet, there is a dynamic that is considered more gentle and lenient called DD/lg. DD/lg stands for a form of age play called Daddy Dominant and little girl, but it also known as Daddy Dominants and baby girl. Don’t be fooled by the name though, it’s not gender specific, as there are “Mommies” and “little boys” as well.

The elements around the DD/lg lifestyle are pretty similar to that of your typical one which includes guidance, protection, training, and devotion. What makes it different from other well known branches (Master/slave and Master/pet) is that the submissive holds an inner-child side and age play is often incorporated in it, so not every Dominants is interested in it because of the this. The power exchange between the Daddy/Mommy and little is often lower versus a TPE (Total Power Exchange). There are also different expectations for a little than a slave, for example. Protocols and the expectations may be different or much more relaxed. The dynamic instead focuses on care and guidance for the little, where rules enforced ensure that. While the Daddy stills holds characteristics of a typical Dominant, he now also plays a more intimate and nurturing parental role. He does not take the place of a true father figure that is in His sub’s life. Engaging in incest role play is not uncommon though, and should not be judged.

What is a Daddy Dom or Mommy Domme?

A Daddy, Mommy, or any other Big is a type of Dominant partner. The Big can be of any gender and age group. It’s a common misconception that a Big has to be a lot older than the little but this is completely false. While experience does come with age, age alone is not what makes a person Dominant. Some Daddies are strict, while others are more relaxed. It all depends on the person, connection, and the power exchange. Daddies focus more on guidance and nurturing their little, helping them grow as a person and explore themselves. This isn’t to say that other Dominants don’t do the same but their reasons behind it may be different.

Now, being a Daddy is more than sex and having the ability to control. Being a Daddy is more than just giving spankings. “Daddy” is more than just a name or a title. It’s a mindset, it’s a personality, it’s a way of being. And most importantly it’s a great amount of responsibility. To a Daddy, his little is his world and the feeling is mutual. He may see them through the eyes of a parent, but this is not to say that the relationship is incestuous at all, or that the Daddy takes the place of the little’s father. They are his most prized possession and a work of art, not in terms of physical appearance, but showing his skill and care as a Dominant. They take on the responsibilities of their little’s life, helping relieve some of the stress and guiding them through every day obstacles.

A Daddy sees potential in his little and does his best to bring it out. Rules are set in place to make sure their little is taking care of themselves. These rules can apply to how they carry out their day, reminding them to take care of proper hygiene, allowing him to choose what they wear, making sure they’re eating healthy, and if they’re on medications that they’re taking them daily. These rules can also apply to internal factors such as encouraging a little to speak up if they’re feeling down, self conscious, or feel that their needs are not being met in the relationship. These rules of encouragement allow the little to speak their mind without fear of being punished or yelled at. And of course there can be rules set in place that are how the little should act towards their Daddy and how to meet his needs. It’s important to emphasize that these needs are not always sexual; submission can be carried out in many different ways. Chores and assignments may also be given to help teach the little responsibility.

When a little acts out of line, it’s his job to teach them right from wrong. Punishments may be given to teach a lesson and they can range from physical punishments, to extra chores, to writing assignments, to loss of privileges. A Daddy does not like punishing his little though, in comparison to how a sadist likes to inflict pain on their bottom. There is no enjoyment in being disappointed and let down, having to correct behavior, or see their little cry with shame. The punishment is not about giving pleasure through pain but it’s teaching a lesson and conditioning, providing an action and a lecture as to why it was wrong and what they can do differently to behave better. But after the punishment it’s his job to remind the little that once it’s over, the issue is dust in the wind.

What is a little?

The term little refers to a submissive that is more of a child-at-heart and plays on their child-like nature. In some communities you’ll see that the term’s original definition is used a little bit differently and losely, since you can find littles who are more interested in little space but without D/s. For the sake of talking about the dynamic and lifestyle, I’ll be using the term with D/s in mind. In general littles may require more care, attention, protection, and guidance than other submissives. Their Dominant partner acts as more of a parental or caregiver figure than other types of Dominants and are typically called names along the lines of Mommy and Daddy, but you’ll find dynamics where the Big partner is another “family” member (sister and brother or even Uncle or Aunt, for example). They feed off each other; the Big giving the support, care, and guidance, while receiving devotion, love, obedience, and playfulness that they may desire.

Not all littles are age players, and not all age players are submissives. If you don’t know, age play is a kink that tends to overlap. Non-age play littles tend to share a relationship with their Daddy/Mommy that is full of TLC (“tender loving care”; and what’s mentioned above) to feed the inner child, though the sub does not act out as a child. For littles that engage in age play, the little actually does take on a little persona and will roleplay as if she were that age. It can range anywhere from simply wanting to look slightly younger, like a cute dress and pig tails, to wanting a pacifier and coloring books and engaging in childish activities. These activities can be completely non-sexual and for the benefit and happiness of the little, which is why you’ll see Daddies/Mommies take part in these activities. Each little is different and has their own interests. From there the Daddy/Mommy takes on His role and acts accordingly, depending on the age, they may need more structure, guidance, and attention than other subs.

It is not uncommon for a Daddy/Mommy to establish rules to teach His little and keep them in line. These rules can range from behavioral rules to every day things such as bedtimes and bathroom privileges. Some couples even create a reward system and chart to praise when the little has been good. At the end of the week or month, prizes are rewarded for good behavior. Like other dynamics, punishments are typically given for littles who break the rules and can range from spankings to loss of privileges.

Please note that the DD/lg dynamic has nothing to do with pedophilia. We do not condone the acts of pedophilia and the exploitation of children in any way. Just as adults like to take on other roles in the bedroom such as nurse, pet, porn star, etc. it is all roleplay; that is the same for ageplay. No matter how taboo the roleplay or fantasy, it’s harmless as long as no one is being abused. No one is sexualizing children and the dynamic is not pedophilia. Pedophiles would not be interested in adult women anyways, no matter how young they dress or look, because they’re attracted to the idea of prepubescent children either for the sake of the easy manipulation and sex or the body. The DD/lg dynamic is like any other aspect of BDSM – it is safe, sane, and consensual between adults. Those who participate in the dynamic should be not be shamed for doing so and should not be accused of having “daddy issues”.

What DD/lg is not…

  • Just calling your boyfriend or husband “daddy” in bed. This would be considered topping and bottoming. There is nothing wrong with that but since it’s bedroom play rather than a lifestyle, it differs from a D/s dynamic. The same as sugar daddies and sugar babies.
  • A reason for a submissive to act like a brat and manipulate their Dom/Domme.
  • A way to get spoiled and give nothing in return.

Are you a Daddy Dominant or a little? What do you think of my explanation? I’d love to hear what you think. Leave a comment.

Daddy Dominants and Little Girls

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  • Reply
    July 24, 2017 at 2:26 pm

    This article is quite a bit longer than your most recent ones, and very well articulated. I appreciate your inclusion of nonsexual ageplay, as a lot of people tend to assume that all littles are sexual with their Dom while in the little headspace.

    • Reply
      Rajan Dominari
      July 24, 2017 at 8:53 pm

      Thank you for your compliment, Jaz! I appreciate it.

  • Reply
    June 26, 2017 at 7:25 am

    I am confused on the term age play and role playing when referring to being a little…i identify as such but don’t feel as though I play an age…i just am. I’m me. It’s a part of who I am and my personality. I’ve always been this way just never had a name for it till this past year. My little side doesn’t go away and I don’t really understand little space as my little side is normally always present (when I’m comfy).

    Am I misunderstanding how you meant those terms? I do understand that some littles do age play and such but for me I’ve never role played before and can’t see my little side as such.

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